Thursday, September 24, 2009
The most disgusting experience .. So Yucky..!!!
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Another lecture saga...
Wondering if the barking watchdog knows anything about the subject he is trying to teach?
I am sure he doesn't.. The vague expression on his face is much more interesting than what he is trying to explain.. [I wrote trying because he himself doesn't has any knowledge about the subject, nor he has good communication skills]..
The jumbled words he is uttering are like an exercise we did in class 5 for English grammar but even those jumbled words made more sense than what he is grumbling right now..
'OK then' and 'Yeah, definitely' are his favourite words or should I say the only words he knows how to pronounce well!! That's a topic of discussion.. I am sure most of you would agree with me..[;)] [Those who know him in flesh and bones though]..[:D]
Whatever.. Though I am sure he is as dumb as he appears.. He is conceptually so wrong that I can visualise the corpses of all the great scientists who gave these theories crumbling in their graves in much horror and disgust!! I am happy that God save them the horror of listening him teach the future engineers so many wrongs.. For him a low pass filter is similar to a high pass filter, while all these growing and learning years I knew they were functionally just the opposite.. God save the soul of the scientists who discovered these filters.. Tears must be flowing down their already dead and feeling less bodies.. [If I were the scientist, I would have walked out of my grave to kill him and rest in peace again!!]...
I don't disrespect all the teachers, [I have developed this habit of co-existence, I am so enduring now] but he is too much.. He not only lacks on the knowledge front [I am being least offensive] but also lacks etiquette... He is working in this institution and he is appointed to impart knowledge but all he does is disrespecting his job and institution.. He always speaks ill about our college, I wonder if its such a bad place, why did he apply here for a job and then work here?
Shouldn't have joined the institution if it were so bad!! Such teachers loose whatever respect we have and then try to threaten us for our internals that rest in their hands..
I think the college should have a better interview round where not only the marks but his overall personality should be evaluated before hiring them.. We don't need such teachers who neither have knowledge nor have manners..
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
It was a pleasant sight..
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Our latest concern...
I have already written about the day and the 'torture lab' and now I am voicing Bhavu's and my concern.. We were standing on the bridge [I told you it'll feature in many of my posts], and looking at the beautiful sky, the trees, the birds and the green lawns, in short enjoying the beauty of nature, when we saw the lawn immediately below the bridge..
Way back in class 10, we studied the ill effects of stagnation of water.. It leaches the soil, makes it more alkaline and all, making it unfit for plantation and discussed the entire chapter on soil erosion.. But then we shifted our focus from the geographic effects to the effects on our health.. We all know that stagnated water is the breeding ground for mosquitoes and many other disease vectors.. Diseases also spread in damp conditions, thus with this stagnated water, we are in for more than just the soil erosion..
Last year too, we witnessed water logging and its consequences.. There was a spurt in the insect population and it was a season of insect bites and so much problem.. The college authorities should do something about this.. I think we should give a written complain and see to it that the matter is addressed to..
College Pictures...
[ The college lawn ]
[ The road to the girl's hostel 1 ]
[ My Block ]
[ The Main Engineering Block ]
[ I on the famous Bridge in college that I mentioned in some of my posts.. ]It holds great significance in our stories and would feature in many of the posts I'll write..
Friday, September 11, 2009
Another day in the torture lab...
I just reached the bus stop to catch the bus in time.. As we sat on our chosen seats, we suddenly felt like clubbing and ganging up at the last seat.. It was fun talking, laughing and pulling legs.. And shouting, 'say something' every time there was silence for even a second.. It was such a funny and amazing morning.. We enjoyed the journey to college after almost an year.. But it left us asking for more.. As we crossed the border, Bims transforms into an altogether different being.. I sometimes just don't understand him.. He is so unpredictable and I hate him for his this kind of sudden transformation.. Only God knows what goes on in his mind..
In college, to the lecture..
I hate the lady that greets us in the morning on Fridays.. Today her so loud make up made me wonder if it was her!!.. She didn't look better though..[;)] Well, I entered the class and sat on my seat looking at so sparsely populated class and wondering if no one would show up.. As the lecture progressed, people started coming in and I took a sigh of relief.. I don't like a barely there strength.. Finally it was a comfortable crowd now..
The first two lectures went on without any trace of my Jai.. I wondered if she had come or not.. Well, almost immediately she and Bhavu were standing outside my class, waving to me.. It was certainly not a lonely rainy day.. Sometimes, rains just spoil the fun of being out as most like to stay indoors.. I too don't like getting all drenched either..
Went to the torture lab, I love to give all the labs a name..[:)]
One is called the danger lab [the story of the danger lab would be told some other day], the other is called the torture lab and so on.. Its the I-lab in the mechanical block.. Why I hate it so much?? Let me explain you why..
The torture lab is agonizing because of more than one reasons..
- It is present on the 2nd floor of the mechanical block.. Those who know even a little about our college know that the mechanical block is every gal's nightmare.. It is devoid of gals with the most strange crowd!! The weirdos and nerds form the majority there..
- The architecture of the building is also not good.. The steps are too high and its tiring to climb up to the second floor.. Muscles are strained and fatigued in just climbing up once.. I am a very active person, whoever knows me, knows how active I am, but the stairs are so damn tiring..[:(]
- The building lacks a girl's washroom!! Its so irritating to be there.. [now you can understand point one better]..[:D]
- The teacher is so damn irritating.. He doesn't leave us before time.. No amount of pleading or arguing helps.. You are struck in that place with a dumb man with nothing to do!!!
Its such a relief to be out of there, away from the confines of the 'torture lab'.. We didn't attend the next lecture.. [Still recovering from the harrowing experience].. It was followed by munching on biscuits, chips, chocolates and an apple.. God!! We overeat in emotionally disturbed conditions.. After the torture..
Journey back home was fun with Sonakshi.. We played loud music and danced [not literally, but it can be categorized as dance though]..[;)][:D] I got down from the bus still happy about how the day started, progressed and ended..[:)]
Thursday, September 10, 2009
it rained like anything...
As the day progressed, it became a bit hectic and Bhavu was so occupied in her assignment that she didn't really had time to breathe the amazingly good breeze that had engulfed the rather mundane campus, which was buzzing with activity..
I spent my day with some other friends as she completed her assignment.. I still enjoyed the day.. The wind that blew my hair and made me admire my beautiful mane after so long.. I like long hair but most of the time I end chopping them to a medium length that is easy to maintain but today I again wanted to grow them long..
[The photos are the copyrights of the respective sites]
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
another college day...
Touch wood..
But I wanted to meet her.. We haven't met for 5 days.. So I asked her if she could come on Tuesday.. She said she wasn't feeling well and can't come.. I was fine and thought its just a day.. It was morning.. I reached college, met Shona and she told me that Jai was coming.. Oh!! How happy I was.. Checked my phone.. She had texted the same message to me too.. Well, I was overwhelmed with joy, at the prospects of seeing her.. I was standing on the bridge, [will post the picture of college and the bridge that connects the administrative block to our lecture rooms] waiting for her [she is always late][:D] in that beautiful weather..
[the College building]
I then thought of taking a walk in the corridor adjacent to the class and found that a teacher, for the elective subject HR has been appointed and he is taking our class.. I immediately asked for his permission to enter and as I entered I apologised and he promptly asked me the reason and I replied it was for my late arrival.. I don't know why he looked better than other teachers and I felt like apologising..
I like management as a subject as well as a career option.. But I am not going for CAT and other entrance exams right away.. I am taking one step at a time and the obvious step is a job followed by resuming the education process and complete my MBA.. I think I'll make a great manager, my friends too feel that I'll be amazing manager to work for, to work with.. A compliment that makes me feel I am really gifted..[:)]
Anyways, the lecture was over and she had arrived.. We were happy to see each other and we were soon chatting about each day spent without being with your greatest buddy.. I didn't realise when the teacher entered my class.. I was hoping it to be a great and fun filled day with not many lectures because we didn't have teachers for 2 subjects and my hopes were dashed at the sight of two new entries to the brigade of irritating teachers..
I went to attend this lecture while Shona sat there with Jai.. I just couldn't help hating the teacher.. He was so damn irritating, so boastful, so self-centred.. In short just another moron to deal with.. I was sitting so relaxed as if I were in my room as he blared out great prepositions of self-praise.. I wondered how soon I'll find myself standing up against him.. :D
Anyways, I did mark proxy for Shona.. So she didn't loose anything, in fact gained the most.. Got the attendance and spent the hour in a friend's company.. She does return the favour..[:D]
The next we all attended and had great fun, those who don't know, I am Jai are in different classes and we don't want to be in the same class either as we have had many amazing moments just because we are in different classes.. Will tell you about them some other day.. [:)] It was fun to sit there and chat all the time.. The next lecture was of a teacher that takes her class too and would recognise that she isn't from our class and create trouble.. So, I bunked with her.. The next thing was everyone asking her why is she there in college while this is an off for her class.. She smilingly points to me.. I love the importance I have in her life, same for her... We are very important in each other's life and we are proud of it.. We love this feeling when people sometimes envy us..[:)]
The day progressed and we did spend great time together.. She won't be coming on wednesday she announced while leaving.. But it was amazing day to spend the other day without her..[:)]
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
We have burried our differences yet again..[:)]
What am I talking about?
Well, told you about a friend who fought with me while I was complaining about my mum.. We have put it all behind and I am glad that our friendship didn't end there..
He read my blog and felt that maybe he acted in haste.. Did he call?
Yes, he did.. Its good he did.. I was asleep and he did text too to know if I were damn angry, but it was good to know he cares.. It was the first thing I saw in the morning when I woke up.. So I was too glad to start my day like that ...
The next thing was that I was in the college.. Was to complete an assignment and hadn't started it.. It was the last day to submit and I took some one's assignment to copy.. We copy assignments.. I sometimes do it on my own but many a times I just copy and give.. So the first two lectures were spent just copying the assignment without even looking up for 100 minutes.. Its a real big thing because I can't be at one place in one position for so long.. The only time I try to sit in one position is in the examination hall, that I leave within one and a half hour..
So exhausted while I finished the last lines, I was in desperate need of a break.. I thus bunked the next lecture and went to get my photo clicked for the photo ID card.. It was in the other building.. A small walk through the parking and I was in a mood to bunk all the remaining lectures.. Hell, yeah its the feeling I get every time I step out of my class or cell [its what I feel it is!!].. As I entered the building I saw the contradictory locations of the photography room.. It was on the first floor for sure, so we decided to go and see there.. The vast room lied just in front of the central staircase.. As I moved in the corridors to find the wash room [ come on, we need touch up before getting clicked.. After all its the picture I have to live with the entire year..].. I noticed the strange familiarity with my school building.. The similar positioning of the three staircases, though the school building was bigger.. After the general washing of the face with cold water and a nice wiping, I went to the photographer's chamber.. Got the picture clicked and also used his staplers to pin my assignment.. I just couldn't resist the thought..[:D]
Well, after this I spent the rest of my time sitting in a lab.. We love to sit in a lab rather then the suffocating classrooms.. Moreover some of the craziest moments I so vividly remember took shape in one such lab that we call the 'Danger Lab'.. Why so? Well we will talk about it later.. [:D]
The point is we had to sit in some other lab as the danger lab was occupied by some teachers.. Don't they have lectures? I always wonder.. Sometimes we share our space with them, when we have no other option.. I don't know about your canteen, but our canteen is like a 'Nazi Gas Chamber'...
So after the lecture was over I moved towards our barrack.. I call my college a jail without the recreational facilities for the inmates.. I heard someone calling my name.. It was the familiar voice of Shilpa.. I walked upstairs to say a 'Hi' and chat while I waited for my friend to show up.. Meanwhile I started talking to my other friend, who to my other friend appeared to be a teacher.. [He later told me that.. So this was the reason for the missed call..:D]
As we met and greeted each other, he smiled and apologised for the fight we had .. I said I wasn't angry and if I were, I would have shown my displeasure.. I am so loud in my expressions..[;)] He still tried to make sure everything was fine, as I started to move away... I was happy to know my friend gave a damn to my 'Oh so unpredictable moods' and still more unpredictable reactions.. I consider myself lucky..
I found myself answering his call as I reached back home.. Well, he was being extra cautious by trying to know if I were really not angry and also clear what happened.. So we ended up chatting for an hour about me, mum, my mood and my plans.. He rarely talks about self, I seem so important in all our conversations.. The kind of attention and care I love to get..
Yes, I am happy we could settle the matter and move on to form an even stronger bond.. Fight?
A real fight is yet to come between us.. It tests the relation and all the claims..
Agreed?
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Palmistry..??? I don't know much about it ..
Thursday
I had already asked Yogi about the happenings at college the day I was out with my friends to attend the fresher's.. It was a day when a test was announced for Friday and an assignment for Tuesday.. I wonder why a day of fun is always ended by so many bad news!! Anyways, I knew it were to happen this way, so let it be.. So I went to college know what all had went while I were away.. The attendance was low because we have many free lectures on the day, I would have taken an off too but for the embedded lab, I had to come..
The strength of the class was too low and as we were so vulnerable if we tried to generate a fuss, I made sure I stay off any kind of trouble with the teachers.. I just don't understand the attitude problem of teachers here!! Well, let them be, who cares.. The day started was altogether fine till I got myself into this..
We were sitting in the embedded lab and were getting all bored when we started discussing the lines that we see on our palms.. Palmistry.. God!! We start discussing these lines for fun.. No one knows how to read them, but still we love to share whatever little knowledge we have!! So as we were happily chatting about these lines and laughing about things like you won't study much or you'll have 3 affairs, I didn't see what was coming my way next!!
I wasn't aware then that I would be looking at, in fact reading my teacher's hand.. Yes, I was made to sit there till I would read their hands too.. I was so badly struck, I didn't know how to read plus anything stupid or bad would land me in trouble.. I tried to escape this sticky situation but I wouldn't go without going through the entire process.. So I sat there and the first lines that I spoke were, 'I really don't know how to read lines and we were just discussing things we heard from people'.. She smiled and said - "Tell me whatever you know".. So I had a look at her hand and saw the lines and told her whatever I could and asked if I could leave.. She informed me not until I have a look at sir's hand too.. Oh God!! I was so sure, I was in troubles.. He then offered me an escape, I could go without having a look at his hand, but I preferred to have a look and then go.. So as I looked at those dark lines in his hand, I was sure its an amazing hand to read for someone who knew.. As I said whatever I could see, I saw him smiling and we all laughed at the silly time pass we students device.. [:D]
Finally I was happy to escape without upsetting them and yet get out of the lab before 12:20..[:D]
It was the fresher's party...
Wednesday
It was the fresher's party today and we all were going.. I have been to my fresher's party and it wasn't a very good experience, so I missed the fresher's the consecutive years but now as soon as Neha asked me, I happily agreed!! I would hardly say no to a dear friend.. The previous night is always a chaotic one as we keep on discussing the plan to prevent chaos but we still find ourselves in the middle of it every time we go out..
The previous evening I had been out with my friends some of whom I were meeting for the first time after college, but I could feel the anxiety of the following day even then!! I received a call from Neha when I had just arrived at the mall to meet my friends and told her that I would talk to her later.. As we sat there and chatted, the fact that I were going to the Fresher's did crop up once or twice showing the amount of anxiety to prevent chaos.. No matter how hard you try, you can never make a plan or outing without its last minutes hick ups!! :D
After reaching back home, I had started to device out the plan of action for tomorrow.. I first called Neha to tell her the timings and the time to reach and I also told her that her passes are with me, so she should reach on time.. I later called Shona to tell her the same plan all over again.. Later got a call from Shilpa telling me the time by which we must start off from here to reach the destination in the designated time.. Oh GOD!! I hate it when you have to co-ordinate between so many people.. Then called Neha again to tell her the time by which I want her there.. I don't understand why do girls use their little brain so much.. I don't use mine so often.. I do what I am told to, but others use their brain and plan accordingly.. I just don't get why my friends don't do what I ask them to and not use their own brains..
Well, you guessed it right she was LATE!!! yes, I hate it when someone is late.. I hate people who make me wait and show up late!! I sometimes feel like returning the honours!! Feel like making them wait for an entire lifetime before showing up again!! She just makes me so damn mad!! Never ever reaches on time.. She just gets on my nerves every time she does so.. I have waited for her for almost an hour every time I go out with her, she would never ever start on time and would always give stupid explanations.. I don't get why she has to spoil my mood every time we go out by showing up late.. Moreover, things are changing between us.. I feel so.. She is very sensitive so I try to keep it like it were but, its not the same..
Any how, as I waited for her, I let out my frustration by blaring out to her on the phone.. Told her to come as late as she pleased, because I am a fool waiting for her, forever... I just feel like walking away sometimes.. Anyways, she finally arrived and I didn't talk to her.. I was the one who was waiting.. I have always been waiting for her outside places, on roads and even at stops and stations!! So she deserves cold treatment for a few minutes at least.. What say?
Anyways, I could see she was too upset [too smart to make that puppy face and that makes me melt and Manu too asked me to forgive her as she would cry if I continue like that].. I gave in .. What can you do in front of a woman about to shed tears.. Huh, the most powerful devised by gals.. I seldom use it myself, but I am often blackmailed with the powerful display of this device!!
So we finally spoke and hugged and I warned her that this was the last time [I know this wasn't the last time, though its good for the time being][;)].. So as she complained about the music being too loud and decided to just sit in one corner table in the disc, I was so damn sick that I needed a shouting!! Well, I moved on to let my other friends know I am in now.. As she continued to throw tantrums, I found myself another company and repented the moment I decided to come here with her.. I, deep down inside, knew she would do this, yet I happily agree to whatever she says.. Never ever let your friend to do this to you.. Anyways, I love to praise her and loath her at the same time, this is what you call love.. You love to hate them and hate to love them, but just don't think of leaving them..!!
Back to track, I like to enjoy and let my hair down when I am out and out to have fun.. So I moved on the dance floor to find a group of enthusiastic known faces that I can join.. I spotted Kriti and moved closer, the group had immense energy and was receptive.. They were welcoming and I didn't feel like an unwanted and unwelcomed addition, so I joined in.. As we warmed up a bit, we were swaying to the beats and were complementing each other's moves.. It was getting to be one hell lot of a dance and we moved on the floor to a better suited place where we could just unwind.. I insisted Neha, Manu and Shona to join in and soon I found myself matching up with the two opposite dance groups that lied to each other at 180 degree phase shift..[:D]
I love to add some science to everything...[;)]
So I would just turn by 180 degrees to get from super energetic, swaying, body wave forming and belly dancing group to a low energy just tapping group and dancing accordingly to fit in.. I were shaking and belly dancing in one group to just hopping from side to side in another..[:D]
It was hell lot of fun.. The Dancing lights, the pumping deafening music and the maddening crowd.. It was all I hoped for minus the bad I expected from my previous experience.. Maybe the bad was missing because I was a senior or maybe more sophisticated people were around, whatever be it, but it wasn't that bad..
I enjoyed the Fresher's get to know a few more people from my college there.. I hardly know people in my college.. I love to keep to myself and my comfort zone, so this letting go once in a while adds to your circle.. So as I got to know Kriti's and Shilpa's groups, I think there are a few more people I can gel with..[:)]
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Just another day at college? I don't think so..
Well, finally back to the present tense.. It’s good to talk about yesterday that a fortnight ago!!
Yesterday was as usual another day full of arguments and raging tempers, the only respite was the good weather..
It all started in the bus.. Arguments with silly and irritating juniors, the latest addition to the great college family.. Oh! They are so damn sickening!! I have noticed the quality of the crowd is deteriorating and the quantity growing exponentially.. They are nothing, I find them brainless beings minus the style quotient minus the manners minus the right attitude and so blissfully ignorant and in exact words the frogs of the well..[:D][Anyone who feels he/she isn't come and meet me as I haven't met anyone contrary to my notion yet!!] They look like uneducated filthy creatures from the past rather than from the future, their mentality and thought process, all are so primitive.. They look like people from the Victorian era!! So damn surly, gruff and grisly!! It feels they are so infectious that I don't wanna share any space with them!! Yuck!!
So as I ended up in an argument with these sick people and took pity on self for being struck in this place!! Anyways, the most hilarious and funny thing was to be told that that silly filthy louse that he would wait for us, especially me in the evening when I board the bus back home!! So funny, as if I am scared!! Huh..
As I laughed about it with my friends, Shilpa too kept making fun of the fact!! It was so damn funny!! I don't let a bug dampen my spirits, I had to meet my school friends and think about the freshers tomorrow, so I didn't let him take even a single neuron of my brain!! Ha ha ha.. Loser!!
It was out and out an amazing day.. My other friends who weren't coming for a day or two were also there and I didn't have a reason to let that bugger mar my day!! We strolled leisurely in the lawn enjoying the beautiful weather and talking about things, fighting and laughing..
It was evening, the time to see what the loser would do.. I and Shilpa were the only ones of the group to show up!! It was a bit shocking, but then in all these years of growing up, we have learnt to stand up for ourselves!! So we sat there next to the looser as he chatted with the similarly uneducated gal!! Oh!! These village dwellers!!
So as we talked about the disappointment and our school friends, I informed her that I was about to meet my school buddies!! I was so excited as we talked about those golden days of our lives!! I was in an amazing group where we would give our book to friend and stand outside the class for them or still better hide it in our bag and stand with them..[;)] How we swore on our friendship not to give in to any oppressive teacher and say sorry to them.. No matter what they would never ever say 'I am sorry'.. We were so damn adamant and arrogant!! But it was fun!!
I got down from the bus and as I rang them up, I was wildly excited to meet them after a period of 4 long years!! It seemed as if it was just yesterday when we all were sitting together on those last benches, I still sticking to my third last row..[:D]
There he stood waiting for me, talking to me on the phone while I asked him to turn around and look at me!! Naveen, I was seeing him after 4 years, one of the many friends, still special, he sat in front of me in the exams and we would cheat, he would take my sheet to copy..[:D]
As I waved to him and we drifted towards each other, I could see the same joy in his eyes as I was experiencing.. We exchanged pleasantries and he told me how different I look now.. I have grown my hair a long now.. [:)] And that I look good.. That he wouldn't have walked up to me if it weren't for the fact that we were on phone and I waved to him..
He was still the same, the Foreigner look intact, that fair skin, those green eyes that tall stature.. He was as handsome as ever I informed him.. We laughed it off and resorted to the earlier ways of communication.. We waited for Vik to come.. He was a bit late, but he was apologetic for being late and as he explained his reasons, we laughed and started chattering again.. He also pointed out how I look different and told me how he had let all of them know that I look different now.. As I urged them to take up another topic, we saw ourselves slowly walking back in time..
We lived those moments of coming late to class and telling that the match had reached a crucial point of a win defeat situation with just one point to come victorious!![:D]
How we would appear shameless while the teacher screamed at us!! How we would bunk classes and sit on the stairs and be called to the in charge’s room.. How we would never ever submit the assignments in time and complete them standing outside the class.. How we would be scolded for being in a company that would leave us good for nothing.. How we were spoiling each other.. It was such an intense nostalgia.. While Vik praised me for everything and Naveen pointing out flaws in me, we chatted and laughed..
It was such an amazing thing to sit next to them and reliving those moments we had spent.. As I hurried to reach back home I promised to meet them before Naveen catches a flight back to
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
continuation to previous post..
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Am I excited to join the college?
Monday, August 3, 2009
The word 'HONEST' leads to hypocrisy..!!
Sorry, but its not something I believe in.. I am not a compulsive liar, nor am I against Honesty.. In fact, I am honest but with words, I tend to play.. You can't say I lied as it had some truth, but a damn honest reply is something that won't come out of me.. Even if I try to tell the brutal truth, I find myself fiddling with words and consciously changing the real words I wanted to say with something less fierce and something that gives me scope for manipulation later, in case the need arises.. Something that is more acceptable.. I would rarely say I didn't like it, when I am asked to give my opinion on something.. Many I times I feel that a sense of pride is associated with the question and I try not to offend by being honest.. Sometimes its the emotions that I try not to hurt with the brutal axe of words that may mar a person more than the physical bruises inflicted.. Physical bruises, I believe are healed but the one inflicted by waggy tongues aren't.. These grudges are nurtured with time and the bitterness increases..
Atleast I don't forget something so easily... I hold it against that person, though I may not exactly show it but the difference is still noticeable.. It takes time, sometimes a lifetime to take back things to as they were earlier.. So why this honesty in the first place?
I used the word hypocrisy because when we are at the receiving end, we tend to forget these above stated facts.. We purposely use the words 'Be Honest' at the end of our question to ensure we get to hear the truth, nothing but the truth.. We try to alert the conscience and judgemental capabilities and at the same time make them link each and every word they are going to use with ourselves as a whole.. We put them through this gruesome exercise while they struggle to find words that are least offensive.. When they are successful in being diplomatic, we comment - 'You weren't honest!! Be honest, I want to hear the truth..'
At this point I wonder is it the truth, 'The Honest Reply', they crave for or is it a way of hinting that 'Start Praising Me Now'??
I strongly believe in the second.. If you go to shopping with your friend and you like some particular dress and then you look at your friend for inputs, what kind of reaction do you get? Most often its a nod meant to say 'Yes, its good'.. How many times do you try on a new dress and ask 'How is it?' How many times you hear, "Its good'?
Most of the times we get these inputs.. How many times did your friend tell you - 'Are you out of your mind to wear it?'
The answer would rarely be a YES.. Why do you think they don't say it? Its not that they don't know its not looking good on you.. Neither they want you to look foolish by wearing that dress.. Its just that they fear being Honest and upsetting you.. When you are gleaming with happiness as you feel its too good, what on earth made you feel they'll spoil your mood?
Its just an example.. If you are alone with them and you ask for a brutal reply then maybe you'll get to hear it, but in public, forget it..
I tell the exact truth when I know it wont be a nasty scene.. When we are on phone or when we are alone discussing things formally.. I have learned it through pain but its what I am sticking to since ages.. :D
The most amazing display of hypocrisy comes when you sit on a round table in canteen with classmates and friends and a bottle in spun around to point to you.. Yes, the terrible game of 'Truth and Dare'... I hate the game.. Not that I am a coward.. I have done the most disgusting dares [that you can imagine], as I prefer dares to those silly truths where you have to tell the TRUTH while people ask you about anything from your personal life to the most gruelling activity you are subjected to.. Its called a kind of 'ice breaker' but I called it a 'tie breaker'.. Why?
Here we are asked to say something we like about all the people surrounding the table and something we dislike about them..!! Its much more difficult then running around the entire canteen on one feet!! I am comparing the two, as I have done both.. And believe me its easier to run on one feet then tell the 'so called truth' about all with all the eyes fixed on you and piercing you as soon as you speak out their name to say things about them!! Its difficult to say good things about everyone without repeating the words you have used, I feel like rushing my hands through my bag and reach out for the dictionary to find synonyms for the adjectives I have already used!! As you struggle to find equally good adjectives for each pair of prying eyes, inside running the word search, you pray that the next step be some how skipped!! As you finish it to every one's greatest satisfaction and take a sigh of relief, you are forced to go through the round two!!
ROUND TWO
Here comes the litmus test.. You are now supposed to say one thing you hate about them.. For the past few minutes as you were struggling with adjectives to say good things about them and did put up a great show by getting good round of applause from all, satisfying their egos, you some how didn't see this coming.. You were so involved in the first exercise that you forgot about the round 2!!
Imagine to struggle to find a 'I don't like in you' thing in them while not contradicting the qualities you attributed to them in round 1 and at the same time be least offensive!! It tests all your social, literary and diplomatic skills one and the same time.. I think I should tell the recruiters about the benefits of this exercise and how it can help them find the best minds!! I would thus ensure myself a great future, a good job for coming up with this amazing idea and would definitely be a prized possession of the company.. The best employee award.. Wow!! What an amazing distraction in this testing situation..
As every one was interested in hearing good things and learning by heart the adjectives I used for them, I wonder who to start with!!
I take the bull by the horns and start in the same sequence as round 1 giving the others to still feel proud of the adjectives of round 1 as I unleash hell of round 2..Cautiously I use my words, my mind working like a super computer checking every possible meaning of the word I am about to utter about the unsuspecting man!! As I speak a word a loud laugh and a few 'Oh, you are right' and 'that's not correct' can be heard and I defend saying 'Its my opinion, I may be wrong'.. Soon the most terrifying moments are over but still a discussion is being held on each word I used.. And I explain.. And explain.. At this point I wonder why do people ask for it when they can't take it? The word would be quoted in the future conversations along with my name and I wonder why they remember the adjectives I used to point out to the things I hate while the most splendid adjectives of their good qualities were soon forgotten!!!
As I deal with this hypocrisy and side effects of being honest and saying the truth, I vow not to choose TRUTH in my future encounter with the game, still safer, keep off the game, which is difficult as you would be labelled 'Unsocial' for the rest of your life.. :D
Saturday, August 1, 2009
there is nothing that can't be resolved by talking over..!!
I had called her on her cell which she didn't pick and then later on her land line number.. Her mother then informed me that she had gone to the college to collect books.. This is how I came to know about it and thus was so mad to know about it from her mother when I called her.. Maybe I wouldn't have been that mad if she told it to me herself in the first place.. I then checked with the other friend to know if she also felt like going without informing me.. Thankfully, she didn't go and that was the only relief I had in those few minutes..
As I was about to write this one, she called in to explain and talk over it.. Of course, I was in my taunting self, but she asked me if I were fine and I replied in an affirmative as she began defending her case... She told me the parental pressure had prompted her to go and get those damn books and also that this way she feels relaxed to have got the job done in time and sit back...'In Time', I felt like a kind of arrow had pierced me, a suggestive of me being way too laid back.. I was still in a mood to act as a spoiler and told her that she hasn't got the entire set yet, so no need to be so relaxed and happy on this stupidity of hers... To this she laughed like I have cracked a joke and I could see myself melting.. Now with a more understanding tone, I tried to explain her why I was so mad but she very childishly said - "I know I am stupid and I accept it... But I also know that you can still deal with it.."
Not the exact solution but definitely something that makes me forgive her as yet.. But if you are reading it, Sweety don't push your luck too far as you know when I am mad, I am not in a mood to listen and my anger triggers a button in my sub-conscience, that makes me remember all past mistakes the person committed, that makes me even more mad.. I try too hard to keep any relation going but if it feels like exhausting me, you know I leave.. Don't make me do that ... Try to curb your such irresponsible behaviour so that I may not feel to push the "Get Outta here" button in my internal program...
I am so infuriated!!
I know people around me feel I have anger management problem, but I feel its not a problem as long as you know its there and that its bad for you.. As I try everyday to control this anger, I feel I am empowering it more by letting it know that I fear it.. Anger, I am controlling it and I am quite successful so far as I know I can think about a situation with a calmer mind...
But what should one do when the one you trust makes you mad!!
One you regard as a friend, someone you love and care for.. Its the real tester.. As I did write about the fact that how one of my friends just cant let her mind rest in peace.. She is the reason of this little anxiety and discomfort I am in right now.. I have had enough discussions with her regarding this habit of hers... I don't know what's her problem?? I try to adjust but she makes me feel that I just can't fit in!!
No need to look at the above statement with doubt, I have done whatever I could to make it right, but seems that its going beyond what I can take on!! I did talk to Neha, who as I wrote earlier takes all the pain to keep things going, but this other friend makes it impossible to go on as one.. There are a number of issues and believe me I have adjusted far too much.. Whoever knows me knows it that I don't adjust beyond a limit.. I am not that super-flexible personality that takes on a lot of things and still puts up a nice smile.. When I am not amused, I show it ... Loud and clear and its time now that she tastes what she is putting me through all these years..
Adjustments are to be made by both and I am damn good with maths to know that she has done little to help it.. Just listening to me when I am talking isn't all that is required from a friend.. They need to understand too, not just hear you.. And that's where she lacks.. She hears me and doesn't understand me a lot.. Of course, she can make out the real meaning of my ever twisted sentences but the meanings, well I am scared they aren't perceived... Or not conveyed .. Its high time we clear this mess and know what's exactly is the problem - she not perceiving me or I am not conveying it!!
I feel I have good communication skills and I just can't believe that there is some fault with my transmission.. Well it clearly means the receiver is faulty, assuming air as the medium doesn't manipulate my words!!
Well I am not assuming anything and we would sit and conduct all the experiments in a controlled environment with the inputs from other associates to come to conclusion.. To know whose fault is it and can it be fixed?? Or is it an indication to let the lava flow into her ear and let her shed some tears.. I am being too cruel or rude but I am in pain and need something to soothe my aching nerves!!
My nerves seem to have calmed down a bit till the allergen strikes again to make me go mad again and I'll ensure that all lines of communication are intact and each and every word that I utter then is perceived and well understood followed by a "DO YOU COPY?" So I am not in a doubt about my capabilities again!!
Thursday, July 30, 2009
why does she think so much??
We have to go to college to get books and all for the new session and we did talk over it many a times.. Ever since the exams were over and we were to think about how to enjoy these holidays, she started worrying about the next step, i.e., the next semester!! While we were discussing the plans of one of us going to Singapore for these brief holidays, she was a bit bothered about the books that are to be collected for the next session..
I somehow handled the situation then, but the next time we met, this was again her primary concern.. She may be mad at me, thinking that I am a way too laid back but I just want her to chill and wait as there is no need to rush in there.. We did talk a lot about it and did try to settle on some date to go to college and pick the books but all the time we couldn't make it because of one reason or the other.. We did decide some date in July [ I don't remember the date now] but she used to talk to me everyday to go before the scheduled date that we did decide on.. I n the end we couldn't go on the scheduled date too..
Sometimes its difficult to stick to the plan!!
Actually we are a group of 4 friends.. So all the plans have to be well co-ordinated to get all 4 of us at a place together with each one's consent.. Its even more difficult when a number of girls are involved as the guys don't mind much about the appointments.. In fact they generally complain that we gals create much ado about nothing.. We try to ask for every one's opinion to prevent any misunderstanding and consequent war of words... I love to stick to a plan once we have decided on it, but the other gals, they just think so much!! Every other day, one or the other sends in a message asking if we can go on one or the other day before the planned day!! Why??? I feel like asking them in the most fierce way so that they leave this habit forever and never ever try to change the much thought about previous decision we made..
I feel, because they never ever made me feel otherwise, that I don't force my opinion on them.. I ask them that I feel this is when we can go, this is where we can go, this is what we can do or this is how it can be done and patiently hear their views on it and then we decide by mutual consent on the issue... But then why do they use their brain all over again!! When all of us together came to this conclusion.. Ladies, I don't intend to infuriate you, nor trying to show you are dumb, but all I intend to say is - "Why do you think so much?" Now don't tell me that you took the Brain Exercise stuff too seriously!!
Now the latest date we put down for that college visit is 11th of August, but now i have started getting messages that lets go on 1st... Why??
I can happily agree on that but what about the commitment I made??
The other friend who is away to Singapore for a vacation would be back by then and I promised her on the behalf of all of us that we all would go together on 11th to collect books!! Now should I tell her that we have decided to go without her while she would always re-schedule all her other commitments to make room for us to meet and stay together.. She puts a lot of efforts to keep us together and maintain peace.. Its difficult to keep all the women happy together.. She tries the hardest.. Even harder than me to keep it all going between us.. So how can I just tell her we decided otherwise.. I told the other gals about it and for the time being we all have decided to stick to 11th August till one of the thinking brains itch again and decide a meeting for a re-schedule...
[No offenses ladies, I love u both and respect your opinion but think sometimes about this gal who doesn't love to strain her brain much with your - 'oh! lets re-schedule']..:D
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Time for mixed feelings ....
Those silly comments that are shooted from every corner of the class on the unsuspecting teacher to inflict insult and sometimes just to prove that we can outwit them while they behave as watchdogs trying to locate the source to figure out who the nasty commenter was!! As they try to nail the culprit, we see the clocks tick, wasting the precious minutes of the lecture, while teacher is desperate to pour his last night's mugging onto us so that he doesn't has to spend one more night on it ...
That deliberately raising some silly doubt, asking some very obvious thing as question to make everyone laugh and defending the doubt raiser as the teacher calls him foolish, sometimes to just break the monotony of the boring lecture or to test the knowledge and confidence of the teacher..
Playing 'BOLLYWOOD' or 'word building' or 'zeroes n crosses' or 'joining dots' or even 'Bingo' in the class as the teacher scribbles on the blackboard and hiding the notebooks as they come to inspect if we are following...
That listening to the iPod as we prefer music to their strangely pronounced concepts while the cords are concealed very carefully to escape the prying eyes of the monsters... Mimicking their strange accents as we ask questions, again to generate a roar of laughter among the crowd... As the restless beast races to-and-fro like a pendulum about their mean position, we giggle at our achievements...;)
Engaging in talks with your buddy just in time to make him miss his roll call.. Or shout out loud-"YES SIR" in chorus, when some friend's roll number is called out and laugh out loud as the flustered moron looks around to find a weak link to nail down... :D
That deliberately coming late to the class to escape some of the torturous minutes in the beginning and then wasting a few more minutes arguing with the angried bull on why we should be let in.. The one who is able to make his way inside is congratulated and looked up to while the one who didn't brags of saving himself from the lecture and yet gambling on his luck...
As I sit and think of all the good times we spend there I wanna go and join the college, but still some lazy being in me tries to hold me back and I am still wondering whether to jump onto the battleground or still wait and rest...
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